Helene Combe

Through my journey as an English teacher and a language learner

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#AntiBullyingWeek

This week, a campaign was launched, I am sure you saw it: #AntiBullyingWeek. The numbers of bullied people increased drastically over the years, and we can thank social networks for that. Before, bullied people were harassed at school, but were done back home. Now, it’s everywhere, all the time. I am not saying that because I wanna be trendy. I am saying that because I have been bullied for years.

I was too tall, too nerdy, I had glasses, and I was the scapegoat just because I was there. Nobody tried to save me, nobody lift a finger. They (teachers, principals, adults in general) didn’t say a word to stop my abusers. Until I punched them back, when I was fifteen. Don’t worry, I didn’t get in trouble after all, because other students stepped in and testified on my behalf.

Do you think that story changed something in my high school? The answer is no. Bullies continued their dirty work, and nothing changed. But in November 2006, it was too much for a friend of mine. He couldn’t stop the constant insults, the anonymous scathing letters he was receiving on his bag, and it was the beginning of AIM. Back home, he was getting insulted on the Internet. He told people about it, his friends, his teachers. Nobody, including me, did a thing. We all thought it was just a rough patch.

He hanged himself before turning 18.

It’s been twelve years now but I still feel the rage I felt that day. I remember everything: the person who told me, the way people looked at us, his friends, on the hallway. Everybody talked about the incident for months. Teachers admitted later that they knew, but they didn’t take the time to talk with him.

I am far from perfect, but when a student of mine isn’t okay, I talk with him or her, even if it’s just for five minutes, after a class. I just don’t assume it’s a rough patch. Because bullying can kill, and I will always recall the face of his bullies when they had to carry his coffin, back in November 2006.

Bullying is not a joke, and bullies must be punished.

How do you know enough is enough?

Over the past two years, I taught a lot of students. I did face to face with high school students, worked in a bilingual primary school, taught a bunch of retired people, started to teach in a business school. I am not entirely confident still, but I am starting to know what is fine by me or not. Before I left for Yale, I started to teach General English to adults here in France. It was face to face, which wasn’t my choice, but it was just for a couple of days. I stopped face to face with high school students last year because I couldn’t cope with it anymore.

After I came back from the US, several adult learners asked me to come back. The first two weeks were fine, the students were well-rested, almost motivated. But rapidly, they cancelled last minute, didn’t show any interest and of course, couldn’t focus more than ten minutes in a row. They were never rude to me, but their minds were clearly off.

Here is my question today, folks: is it okay to just drop it? Can we say, as educators, “I don’t want to waste my time on you, because clearly, you don’t give a crap about me?” Because they don’t, I mean, they waste their time, I waste my time.  Why do they want to pay for a face to face class if they don’t want to work?

If a learner isn’t motivated, as a teacher, can we say “I am done?”

Because I am afraid I’ll do so pretty soon. I have realized recently that I wasn’t comfortable with face to face classes anymore. I prefer the thrill of a group, the challenge it can represent. Maybe I am growing up, changing, maybe I am just fed up with unmotivated students.

But how can I say “this is not for me anymore” when the industry is so tough? Who am I to say so?

Let’s wrap it up!

What a ride that was. I arrived at Yale with all my naiveté,  my hopes and dreams. That was six weeks ago, and tonight is graduation. Real life will kick in soon, and I am not ready at all!

Truth is, I am exhausted. These past two years were a continuous rollercoaster: I did several training courses (TKT, CELTA, CertIBET, Yale…), I moved a lot (France, England, France again, England again, Connecticut..), I taught 20h/week (not bad for a newbie, right?).

The fog lifted, I know what I want to do next, and I can thank Yale English Language Institute for that.

So, I am going to do something really unusual for me: I am going to switch off my laptop and my phone!

I am going to enjoy my moment, to have fun, to frame my Yale diploma, and to come back in September 🙂

Happy Holidays everybody!

I care too much

There is something I realized last week, and I am not (really) proud of it: I care too much.

It’s good, as a teacher, to care for your students: you want them to succeed, you want them to understand, you praise them… Caring is undeniable for a teacher. You can’t be a teacher if you don’t care. Be a zookeeper or a supermarket security guard if all you care about is listening to yourself and ignoring your students.

But I do care too much. See, I was thinking about taking another job, and that would mean leaving my current students behind. I always found excuses not to leave them, for example:

-She will lose her motivation

-They are used to our habits and won’t behave well

-He will stop his efforts

-They won’t continue to learn

I am lucky enough not to have really difficult groups, nor students, they are, most of them, motivated, nice, friendly. Even my busiest student always tries to make an effort, because she knows I care. When I left BEET last August, I cried during my flight back home because my students had sent me a nice email and some lovely comments on Instagram. Maybe I am too sensitive, maybe I am just a newbie and I need experience, but either way, I couldn’t leave my current students and I decided not to get the other job.

For now, I don’t care about something else than my students’ improvement. I want them to feel good during our classes, and to enjoy them, as much as I do. I don’t know if I am right to care this much, but I am afraid that, for now, I am not able to be otherwise.

Back to work!

After ten days without classes, but with tons of Christmas food, Disney movies and Harry Potter books to read (Yes, I am 8 when I am on vacations), the cold and dark reality hit me: it was already the time to go back to work.

Aaaand my students didn’t study during Christmas break. I should have known, but still, I had this little spark of optimism inside of me.. They were happy to come back though, they had a lot of New Year’s resolutions and they were glad to share them with me like “I am going to go more often at the gym” or “I am going to stop smoking”. My favorite’s being “I am going to become flexitarian” because I had to google this one out.

Despite their “laxity”, I was glad to get back with them and to start teaching again.

But teaching isn’t only being in front of students: I (finally) registered to take the IELTS in order to apply for a MA in TESOL for fall 2018! I wanna learn more about teaching and get different experiences: staying in one place is not healthy for me (or for anybody, actually). I think that I couldn’t be a proper teacher if I wasn’t always looking for new tools, new ideas, new materials or just to share (experiences, ideas) with other teachers. If I wanted to repeat every week the same speech, I would have registered to become a parrot, blimey, not an English teacher!

I felt a little behind this fall, despite what I have done, because I had some personal matters to take care of (like, selling our place, for ex.) but I don’t know if it’s the New Year or what, but I feel back on track, which is good, because if you remember correctly, I am doing a CertIBET in London in two weeks!

Let’s do this, 2018!!

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